The Ten Commandments
Q16. What does this mean?
We should fear and love God so that we do not tell lies about our neighbor, gossip about them, or hurt their good name. Instead, we should stand up for them, say nice things about them, and try to see the best in what they do.
Scripture Proofs — King James Version
Proverbs 19:5
“A false witness shall not be unpunished, and he that speaketh lies shall not escape.”
James 4:11
“Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law.”
1 Peter 4:8
“And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.”
Ephesians 4:25
“Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.”
Parent Guide
Discuss this question together
Discussion Questions
- 1
What does Luther say we should do for our neighbor's reputation?
- 2
Why is it so tempting to gossip about people, even people you like?
- 3
Can you think of a time when someone stood up for you when you were not there?
Illustration
Two friends are talking about a boy who is not there. One says, "Did you hear what he did? He is so weird." The other one could agree, stay quiet, or say, "He is actually pretty nice when you get to know him." That third option is what Luther means by standing up for your neighbor and putting the best construction on everything.
Application
The next time you hear someone being talked about behind their back, say one true and kind thing about that person. Ask God to help you be the kind of friend who defends others instead of tearing them down.
Read Luther’s expanded teaching
From the Large Catechism (1529)